Wise Up

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Have you been watching HBO’s “Girls” this season? I have (of course), and I really liked the direction the show has taken this year – and last night’s season finale was an absolute gem. I don’t want to ruin your day with spoilers, but I have to point out a few highlights for me: three cheers for Hannah for not saying YES to a reconciliation with Adam (although I loved them together and wish they could have somehow found their way back to each other)…her ability to say no to him when he says he wants her back was so strong, so powerful – I doubt I could have done that. Adam has always been a magical, powerful force in Hannah’s life, and for her to realize that he was not good for her, and that them being together was destructive….well, that was just awesome. Three cheers for Hannah – our little girl is growing up. :-)

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I have always been a huge fan of the character of Ray – I think that he might just be the one of the realest characters on television today. Over the years, he has made some speeches that have pretty much brought me to my knees with their raw emotion (seriously – whoever is writing the lines that Ray speaks is my friggin’ hero and I want to share a pizza with them and talk over beer), and last night was no exception. He ripped the Jackass Desi a new one, letting him know that he wasn’t good enough to be with Marnie (so.true)…and he said this: “I also know that you absolutely do not deserve her. Even remotely….She is a beautiful, fully-formed woman, dazzling in her complexity, maddening in her mystery. And you underestimate her, every fucking day.” Isn’t that just brilliant?? I was so blown away by that speech that he made, so full of love and admiration, that I paused the TV, hit rewind, and kept watching it over and over again…just to be sure that the full power of those words seeped into my soul. Amazing. Who doesn’t want to be described that way??! I sure as hell do! Love Ray! :-)

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The final thing that I loved most from last night’s episode was the stuff involving Shoshanna – that girl is everything that I imagine I was when I was her age…I just hid my eccentricities a whole lot better than she does. Her wide-eyed optimism is a standout for me on that show, and I loved the scene between she and Colin Quinn, when she is sharing that she’d been offered a job in Tokyo, but wasn’t sure about leaving the new guy she was dating to take the position. Colin Quinn started ranting about reading the most excellent Sheryl Sandberg book ‘Lean In’, and told her, “Grab a seat at the table and lean the fuck in. And if this guy’s worth his salt, he’ll be waiting for you.” Mind. Blown. What I wouldn’t give to have someone have cared enough about me to have given me that advice at various points in my life, when I have made eggregiously stupid decisions based upon the men that I thought were going to be there for me – and they weren’t. And I let opportunities go. Like an idiot. Grr. Oh well….live and learn, eh? :-)

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I know that I am not the target demographic of this show (by about 15 years or so), but I love it with all my heart and think the wisdom of the writing is mind-blowing, regardless of what age you are. Take this line of Hannah’s, for example:

So am I, Hannah...so am I.

So am I, Hannah…so am I.

Isn’t that pretty much what we all are doing? It’s funny….I will be 41 years old in a couple of weeks, and I still feel as if I’m waiting to grow up. There are days when I look around me and see this beautiful life that I’ve crafted for myself, one that is full of responsibilities, events, a maddeningly busy calendar, tasks to be done, places to go…and I wonder how it is that I managed to fall smack into the middle of someone else’s existence, because all of this grown-up stuff can’t possibly belong to me. But it does. I don’t know how it happened. I think I will always feel like Hannah, working hard to try to become who I am. I wonder when I will finally wake up and realize that I’ve been me all along?

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Don’t Stop Believing

I watched the series finale of ‘Glee’ today, and felt all the feels, cried like it was my damn job, and LOVED every second of it. While I had felt that the show had done its share of shark-jumping in the last year or so, last night’s finale was just everything. I laughed, I cried, I was happy with the resolution of things, which rarely happens in a series finale (if you want to start a fight with your friends, solicit opinions on the ending of ‘How I Met Your Mother’ – which I really liked, for the record)…and everything ended happily, which you know I’m all about. :-) Good fuzzy feelings everywhere here today, friends! :-)

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One of my favorite lines from the show was this (Rachel Berry said it during her Tony Award acceptance speech – she was talking about the impact her teacher, Mr. Schuester, has had on her life): Being part of something special does not make you special – something is special because you are a part of it. Don’t you just friggin’ LOVE that???! I know – me, too. :-) LOVE. :-) This is something I have always really believed – the importance of acknowledging the special qualities that other people have. We all get busy, we don’t praise each other, we don’t stop to reflect on the AMAZING things that everyone around us does every single day. Instead, we rush through life, hurrying to do all of the things that are on our never-ending To Do lists…when really we should be taking time to enjoy all of the beautiful stuff that surrounds us. I’ve always been the worst at this – I work too much, I’m always trying to take on too much…when in reality, I need to just slow ‘er down a bit, and breathe. It’s good to smell the roses. Or the candy. Or the bottom of the cereal bag after you’ve emptied the Frosted Flakes into a bowl. ;-)

One of the highlights of the ‘Glee’ finale for me was Lea Michele’s final ballad – a song called “This Time”, written by the loooovely Darren Criss (fun fact – I think he is about the cutest, most talented, and bestest guy on TV) – this article has an audio preview for you to check out (which you should – you’ll love it!), and here are the words, should you care to sing along:

These walls and all these picture frames
Every name they show
These halls I’ve walked a thousand times
Heartbreaks and valentines, friends of mine all know

I look at everything I was
And everything I ever loved
And I can see how much I’ve grown

And though the mirror doesn’t see it
It’s clear to me, I feel it
I can make it on my own

I’m not afraid of moving on or letting go
It’s just so hard to say goodbye to what I know, I know

This time no one’s gonna say goodbye
I’ll keep you in this heart of mine
This time I know it’s never over

No matter who or what I am
I’ll carry where we all began
This time that we had, I will hold forever

This old familiar place is
Where every face is another part of me
I played a different game then
They called me a different name then
I think of all the things I did and how
I wish I knew what I know now

I see how far I’ve come and what I got right
When I was looking for that spotlight
I was looking for myself

Got over what I was afraid of
I showed ‘em all that I was made of
More than trophies on a shelf

For all the battles that we lost or might have won
I never stopped believing in the words we sung, we sung

This time no one’s gonna say goodbye
I’ll keep you in this heart of mine
This time I know it’s never over

No matter who or what I am
I’ll carry where we all began
This time that we had, I will hold forever

I’m looking out from the crossroads
I don’t know how far away I will roll
I take a breath, I close my eyes
Your voice will carry me home

I’ll keep you in this heart of mine
This time I know it’s never over

No matter who or what I am
I’ll carry where we all began

This time that we had, I will hold
This time that we had, I will hold
This time that we had, I will hold
Forever

Forever

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Isn’t that song awesome?? So. Profound. I love it, it seems to be a perfect description of how we all feel when we are on the cusp of change, leaving behind the familiar, and taking a giant leap into the great unknown – something I’ve done MANY times myself, but it never gets any easier, or any less exhilerating. I am a person who generally thrives on change and loves massive life shifts like nobody’s business – it’s learning to revel in the day-to-day that’s somewhat challenging for me, but I’m working on it. :-)

 

Did you watch ‘Glee’? What’d you think? I hope you loved it as much as I did – well done, Ryan Murphy et al. Well done. :-)

 

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Luck Be a Lady

Lady Gaga announced her engagement to her boyfriend, actor Taylor Kinney, on Instagram today…look at her ring! :-)

I. Die.

I. Die.

 

Stunning, right? So. Gorgeous. :-) I love love to pieces, and few things thrill me like a happy couple living a happy life on their own terms. I wish there was more of that to go around! :-)

The Happy Couple :-)

The Happy Couple :-)

 

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Amazing Grace

Did you watch the Grammy awards on Sunday night? It was good, full of performances and interesting attire…exactly what I’m looking for in a music awards show. One of the night’s highlights was the loooooovely Ed Sheeran melting my heart with his performance of “Thinking Out Loud” (one of my favorite songs of all time, no lie), backed by the very handsome John Meyer on a hot pink guitar. Sigh. That was a lot of awesome on that stage at one time. Fantastic! :-) I loved watching my one true love Paul McCartney clapping and dancing along to the music, the divine Sam Smith duetting with Mary J. Blige (holy hell that’s a lot of talent happening there)….there were some really great moments. And then there was this:

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There’s no denying that her body is in tremendous shape, especially for her age. However, there’s something so hard and sinewy about her, don’t you think? Yikes! She doesn’t look like a 56 year old woman – at least not like any 56 year old that I’ve ever seen. As well, whatever she’s done to her face has changed her appearance so much…it just doesn’t look natural. (Ladies – let this be a lesson to you: if a woman like Madonna with all the money and resources possible at her disposal can’t get work done on her face that looks natural, what hope do you have?? Stop messing with your faces!!!) I miss how Madonna used to look…during the Evita years, I thought she was the most stunning woman ever. Her performance on Sunday night didn’t really do it for me, either – which is completely shocking, as I have loved Madonna for 30+ years!! Her music now doesn’t seem to fit for me, either…I’m not sure why. It feels desperate, and like she’s trying way too hard…and she doesn’t need to. She’s Madonna. Needless to say, the entire situation left me wanting a more mature performer, one who has grown and aged as she should have….and thankfully that arrived, in the form of the looooovely Annie Lennox!! She came out to join Hozier on “Take Me To Church“, a song that I love a whole bunch – Annie was bloody radiant, she looked deliriously happy, natural, and LIKE HER SELF. She sounded fantastic, she was appropriately dressed (meaning I didn’t have to see her arse hanging out) – it was such a stark contrast to the image Madonna had painted earlier, of a woman raging and fighting against growing older. There was Annie, laugh lines and wrinkles telling the story of a life well-lived. It was fantastic – and did the heart some good. There’s no shame in getting older, and I’m really bloody tired of the society today that makes it sound like there is. It’s been nearly a year since the Wee One and I went to Paris, and hardly a day goes by that I don’t remember the women that I saw there and the beautiful, natural way that they looked…and I long for it. I don’t spend a whole lot of time fussing with my appearance – it is what it is, and I have come to accept that.  However, I wish that I could head out into the world some days without makeup on…but I don’t dare. I always run in to people that I know, and I can’t  risk frightening them like that! I wish that I lived in a place and time where it was okay to show the grey that exists in the litttle hairs around your temple, the crow’s feet around your eyes, and the shadows that sometimes show up when you haven’t had quite enough sleep.

 

Maybe someday. :-)

 

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Let It Snow, Let It Snow, Let It Snow

This sketch from last night’s Saturday Night Live (with guest host J.K. Simmons) is EVERYTHING – loooove!!!! :-)

Click to see the video! :-)

Click to see the video! :-)

 

Funny, yes? :-) (DISCLAIMER: I’m not advocating any of the hijinks portrayed in this video – I just think it’s really funny. :-) )

 

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Dream On

I subscribe to the daily newsletter from the website Lifehacker, and I kinda love it. There’s usually something in it that speaks to me – but today’s newsletter was more of a holler than a whisper. Behold the post ‘9 Steps To Stop Dreaming And Start Doing’ – I LOVE it!!! :-)

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Having a dream and being a dreamer are two different mindsets. Dreamers are drifters just floating through life with no real plans. One who has a dream, is a doer on the path towards achieving their goal.

Once you decide to remove your head from the clouds, tackle the obstacles that face you, and organize a plan of attack, you become a doer. If you are ready to put in the work, here are 9 steps to stop dreaming and start doing.

1. Accept responsibility for your own actions

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” -Arthur Ashe

It is the most unattractive thing to hear someone constantly whine and complain about their life. Especially when they blame the world for their problems. The whole universe is probably against you, does not care about you, and will deceive you. This does not make any actions, or lack there of, on your behalf their fault. Say this statement out loud, “I am in control of my behavior and choose how to react to circumstances.” Say it everyday. Nothing is more true than that statement.

You can, and need, to start actively controlling your thoughts and emotions. Learn to control your rage when you are angry. When a negative thought slips in, push it right back out. This takes practice because we have been programmed by our environment to behave and think in certain ways. Fight to change your negativity, or you will remain a bitter and miserable person. Use your aggression in a positive way by working out, or put it into your work.

2. Give and receive love and forgiveness

“Learn how to fill your day with POSITIVITY. Think of how your ideas CAN work, not how it won’t work.” -Steve Harvey

Once you harness your inner power of controlling your thoughts and emotions, it is time to start focusing on positivity. The best way to start is by accepting others and forgiving the people who have caused you pain. Giving love and forgiveness really isn’t about giving at all. It is about you healing by letting go of negative relationships. If these people really love and care about you, they will fight for you. If you walk away and never hear from them again, you know they never cared, so why should you? Your grudges make you focus on people who do not deserve your time or attention. Anger leaves you feeling irrational, depressed, deceived, sad, regretful, and lonely. Learning to truly forgive those who hurt you will lift a thousand pounds of burden off your shoulders. You will free your mind and be able to start working on your dream.

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3. Accept yourself

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

Now that you are focusing on living a positive life, it is time to look in the mirror and love what you see. Physically and mentally. No one is perfect. It is time to accept that you will never be what society expects you to be. Follow your intuitions. Do not let someone else dictate your life. That only leads to a boring, predictable, miserable, and mediocre life. Do what makes you happy instead of just dreaming about it. Love yourself flaws and all.

4. Choose who you surround yourself with wisely

“We met for a reason, either you’re a blessing or a lesson.” -LoveQuotesPlus.com

This journey will end many relationships in your life. The people who are not supportive, who are negative, and who use you need to go! At first you may feel lonely and insecure. If you focus on you instead of them, these feelings will go away. It is time to move on. It is time to let go. The ones who truly care about you, respect you, and accept you for who you really are will stay. They will support you throughout your journey. These relationships will become more valuable to you than ever before. If you have given your all to a relationship, and they do not give back, stop chasing after them the next time they leave. You will thank yourself in the long run.

5. Learn to ignore the negativity from others

“I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” -Bill Cosby

Now that you are starting on your journey, you will have people who will try their best to pull you down. That’s why the steps above are necessary to complete before starting. If you have prepared yourself for the haters, you will be able to rise above. It is easier to criticize others than work on yourself. Knowing this gives you peace about where you are in life and where they are. You are obviously ahead, even if it doesn’t look like it to others. Keep moving on and let them talk.

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6. Carefully lay out your plans

“Failure is not the opposite of success, inaction is.” -Rois Liano

Freeing your mind from your emotional baggage gives you room to focus on your dreams. Now that you have a clear picture, it is time to take action. To be a doer, you need a game plan. Write your end goal at the top of a sheet of paper. Below, write out the steps you plan to take to get there in an organized, realistic fashion. Say your goal is to become a nurse. Your first step should probably be volunteering at your local hospital to see if you would really enjoy it. Next maybe list the schools you are interested in applying to. The third step could be to gather your necessary paperwork to apply to colleges. See what I am doing here? The sum of all the little tasks you do equals your goal. Lay it out in daily, weekly, monthly tasks that will get you closer to your dream.

7. Do SOMETHING, ANYTHING

“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.” -Henry David Thoreau

Many people will get to step 6 and stop. Your plan does not come to fruition magically. You have to now take action to get yourself there. So start researching, traveling, volunteering, writing, calling, interviewing, working out, or whatever opportunity you can find to get you moving forward. You may have to take on many different hats to get you there. Start where you can, do whatever you can, this is where the physical work begins.

8. Embrace failures and detours along the way

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” -Thomas Edison

We all have epic failures in life. It is time to stop viewing these failures as an end all. Failure is an inevitable part of success. Ask any highly successful person if they’ve ever failed, and they will tell you they have 100 times. Failure only means to try a different way. Start viewing failures as a positive experience. How can we learn without failing? Failures result from trying. People who avoid failures at all costs are content with a mediocre life. We are not these people. We want true happiness and inner peace. I remember going to work in a past career and absolutely dreading it. I now think about work and feel peaceful and happy. It’s still hard work, it’s just work that I am passionate about.

As you begin the journey of pursuing your dream, it may change a little, or a lot, along the way. Your passion is already programmed inside you. Uncover your God-given gift through this process and keep moving forward no matter what may come.

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9. Network and use resources to your advantage

“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” -Chris Grosser

You will realize, eventually, that you need others to help you get to your goal. Whether it is in absorbing information and experience from them, or getting recognized for your talent. Look online for good informative websites, look for classes or lectures where you can learn and connect with others. Drop the pride and shamelessly promote yourself with your work and/or knowledge. Whatever you can find, whoever will help, take it seriously. Opening one door can lead to many more opportunities.

Start at step one. Do not pass go and do not collect $200. If you commit to these 9 steps to stop dreaming and start doing, you are facing your fears head on and taking a leap of faith. Congratulations, your life will now truly begin. Please note this will be hard and sometimes not fun. Stay focused, but don’t forget to take time to clear your mind and relax along the way. I hope you now feel inspired to step out of your comfort zone, and risk being happy.

“Dreams are like floating down a lazy river. The path to success is like riding a roller coaster. Find the courage to get on the roller coaster, and stay on the ride until you puke.” -Margaux Daughtry

 

Don’t you just LOVE this???! I absolutely do – there are so many good steps there to help guide us along the path. I’m a doer in life, no ifs ands or buts about it. I like to do things, and once I get a notion in me wee noggin, I’m off and running. This usually serves me well – but not always. There have been more than my share of disasters, but I keep on trying. :)  I really love #4, #5, and #6 in particular – let me tell you why. #4 urges you to carefully choose who you surround yourself with…and this is one that I am FINALLY learning. I used to love everybody, see the best in everybody, and be such a bloody Pollyanna that it wasn’t even funny. People would take advantage of me right, left, and center – and you know why? Because I let them. There are people who only know me when they want something (ie: borrow money or ask me to drive them somewhere) – I don’t need that kind of crap and negativity…and neither do you, my dear. Surround yourself with people who think you are the cats pyjamas – it’ll make you feel great! :)

I think #5 is awesome advice, too – and something that I have become REALLY good at lately. I hear all sorts of misery and negativity in a day – and I ignore it. All of it. What other people think of me is NONE of my business – don’t know, don’t care. I seem to find myself surrounded by people who whine and complain all the bloody time about their lives – I’m not interested in hearing it. I know that makes me sound like a real heartless bitch, but I promise that I’m not. When people are having a hard time, I am the first person to show up, casserole in hand, offering to help. However, when people aren’t interested in helping themselves and only want to play the victim – I’m out. I’ve zero interest in that kind of nonsense – life is too damn short!

Finally, #6 is a great idea – write down what you want. Put the words in front of you, on paper – it makes them real, and gives you power to make it happen. I am crazy about creating a list of manageable steps that will help you achieve that dream – I’ve been doing this for a couple of decades now, and this practice has served me verrrrrrrry well. There’ve been times when I’ve had to adjust the steps and make them even smaller and more specific, but I’ve achieved what I was after eventually. SUCH a good strategy! :)

 

I used to work with a lady whose job it was to work with high school seniors and coach them through the college application process – something SUPER important. She had the most amazing gift of walking the line between fostering the wildest dreams of students and keeping their expectations real and manageable. I’ve asked her about that many times, and she says that it’s so important to temper one’s dreams and passions with a bit of reality, but still keep the dream burning and alive because, well….you just never know. Isn’t that magical? You just never know. :) I love it. :)

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Sophia

The Huffington Post is putting together a new feature called ‘Sophia: Life Lessons from Fascinating People’ – and it sounds AWESOME! :) Here’s a description:

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Think of someone you admire — a talented artist or scientist, entrepreneur or adventurer.

Do you know what their great regret in life is? What advice would they share about parenting, or aging, or finding fulfillment? What book has had the greatest impact on their life?

Chances are you don’t know. Which is why we’ve created Sophia, a project to collect life lessons from fascinating people.

Here’s how it works. We’re conducting hundreds of long-form interviews with accomplished individuals, asking them to share stories and advice about topics that are central to a well-lived life — happiness, relationships, aging, work, parenting, habits and routines, to name a few.

We’ll publish these personal conversations on HuffPost, and we’ll also use the lessons our guests share to build a special platform (think of it as ‘Yelp for wisdom’) that organizes their collective insights by topic.

In the coming weeks we’ll feature life lessons from Nobel and Pulitzer Prize winners, successful executives, engineers, authors and athletes, dynamic thinkers and doers of all stripes. If you want their practical wisdom delivered straight to you, follow Sophia on Facebook or subscribe to our email newsletter.

The heart of this project is the set of questions we pose to each guest. Some of the questions elicit weighty responses, i.e., Have you had any recent realizations about living a rewarding life?

Other questions are more practical, i.e., What’s the greatest travel journey you’ve taken that you’d recommend to others? What’s the most meaningful gift you’ve received?

Each individual’s answers are personal and unique, but they are all also broadly useful. So follow or subscribe for lessons, ideas and insights you can apply to your own life. Get in touch with us at sophia [at] huffingtonpost.com; we read every note. Also, we’re always on the lookout for new guests. If you have suggestions, including someone wise and insightful in your own life, let us know.

 

 

Sounds cool, eh? I know! I’m SO excited to see who they choose, and the questions themselves are pretty great! :) You can see a complete list here, but I thought we could have some fun and look at a section at a time together – I will put my answers beside each question in bright blue. You in? :)

The first section is…Life lessons, happiness and fulfillment:

  • What are some key beliefs you hold about living a fulfilling and successful life? / Have you had any recent realizations about living a rewarding life? I believe that a fulfilling and successful life is one that is full of laughter and fun, both in the workplace and the home. Being a success means that somehow, somewhere this world is a better place because I’ve been a part of it. I feel fulfilled at the end of the day, when I am lying in bed in the home that I have worked so hard to make for the Muppet and I, I hear her little feet prancing around upstairs, and I feel absolutely content with the world. I have had some realizations about living a rewarding life recently, in fact – the older I get, the less interested I am in measuring my success against that of those around me, or judging my worth in terms of the cost of my latest handbag or the number of jewels on my hands. Personal happiness and fulfillment are mattering more and more to me every day – and I am all about the pursuit of that happiness. It’s kind of liberating – and awesome. :)
  • What is a great regret of your life? I regret that I haven’t always treated people as kindly as I should have. I have been impatient, and judgmental…sometimes downright unkind. That’s unfortunate – shame on me….I’m glad that I know better now. I believe that what Oprah says is true: when you know better, you do better. You should try embracing that phrase as a guiding philosophy for yourself – it’s amazingly freeing, and it makes it easier to forgive those who have done you wrong. Oprah rules! :)
  • How have your efforts to make yourself happy developed and changed? What has worked and what failed? I have only been successful in the area of changing myself and (hopefully) becoming a better person since I quit trying so bloody hard to be all things to all people. I used to continually lose sight of me and who I was because I was so busy becoming who I thought that those around me wanted me to be. Why? What was that all about? I will tell you what it was – a colossal waste of time. There’s nothing at all wrong with me as I am, and anybody who thinks otherwise needs to bugger off, and not let the door catch their arse on the way out. Ridiculous. I’m glad that I turned 40 last year, because, while I had been making strides in this direction for the past 3-5 years or so, it was only when I turned 40 that somehow a magical switch was flipped, and I truly felt free of all that pressure to be someone I’m not. It’s been awesome. :) Yaaa me! :)
  • What is your greatest flaw? Crikey…how much time have you got? I have A LOT of flaws! I think perhaps my greatest flaw is my struggle to believe that I am more than enough as I am. That and my weakness for good food. ;) (check out my considerable arse if you’d like proof of that last one! ;) )
  • As you look at your life so far, were there any turning points, any key events or experiences that changed the course of your life and set you on a different track? What happened and what did you learn? Hmmm….moving out of Grade 7 and in to Grade 8 was extremely impactful on my life (I made new friends that I love with all my heart and I can’t fathom my life without them), my dad being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at such a young age did a lot to change the course of my life (not to mention what it’s done to my outlook on aging and my own mortality), moving to England for awhile was another decision that was an EXTREMELY good idea (I could – and probably should – write volumes about that experience and all that I learned), breaking my left wrist at the age of 12 and having it set wrong has had a massive effect on my life (that I totally could have done without, thankyouverymuch)….there’s been a lot of pivotal moments for me. Not all of them have been good, but each has contributed to making me the kick-ass chick you see before you, so…perhaps they were worth it. :)
  • Memories are an important part of happiness. Do you use any interesting techniques to keep track of your memories? I.e., Do you keep a type of journal or diary? I keep up with a daytimer-type of calendar book – I write in it every day (appointments, things to remember, etc), and I use it as a way to keep track of movies I see, restaurants I try, that type of thing. I also make notes in it about stuff that happens during the day, but I’ve not been keeping a proper journal or diary in recent years…that’s why I have Pretty Thing, y’all! ;) This blog has been an excellent way for me to keep track of my life, to share my thoughts and ideas with all of you – and hearing back from you is pretty much the best stuff EVER! So, thanks! :)
  • Many people have had deeply difficult or stressful experiences but learned valuable lessons from them. Is that true for you? What did you learn? My shitty track record with relationships has been deeply difficult and stressful for me (but apparently my foibles in this department are endlessly amusing to my friends! ;) ), but I have learned a lot of valuable things from them – I think I’ve learned what I want in life, as well as what I don’t want. I’ve had some other life experiences that have run the gamut from difficult to massively traumatic that have been incredible learning experiences as well, so I try to frame them that way when I think about them (which isn’t often – I’m done beating myself up for long ago things….no more digging up bones!). That which hasn’t killed me has made me stronger – I’m about at the point where I could give the Hulk a run for his money! ;)
  • What is something minor or seemingly insignificant in your life that actually contributes greatly to your happiness? Pretty Thing, actually! My wee little blog started in such an innocent way, and it has grown to be a place where I share my thoughts/ideas/feelings/rants/stupid ideas with you…and it fills me with incredible happiness! I love the act of writing – I’ve no idea if I’m any good at it or not, but it makes me happy, so…I guess there’s that. :) I love hearing from each and every one of you, and I treasure and appreciate all of your feedback (even the negative stuff, I promise!). So – thank you. :) You make me happy. :)
  • What characterizes the periods of your life that you felt were most fulfilling, or least fulfilling? Are there any common threads? The most fulfilling period of my life is right now: being a mama to my Wee One is the greatest thing I’ve ever done hands down, and my heart nearly bursts with love and pride when I think of her. She is the most magnificent creature, and I am consistently amazed that she is mine and I get to keep her. She’s glorious! :) I am also exactly where I am meant to be in terms of my career – I have one seriously fabulous job, and I love it more and more each day. I feel like I am making a real difference here, and what is better than that? Not a lot. :)
  • Have you ever been screwed over? What happened and how did you respond? It would probably take less time to tell you how I haven’t been screwed over…the list is far too long to share with you here. What tends to happen is that people mistake my kindness for weakness, and try to take advantage of me…and then I  tend to let them for awhile because I am so bloody polite. Once I’ve had enough (and my threshold for bullshit is higher than most mere mortals, I believe), all hell breaks loose – and then it’s over. I’m not a person that holds a grudge for terribly long (even when I should), so I get mad, I get over it, and I move on. I am sure that I have screwed people over in my time (not usually on purpose – I generally try to be a nice girl), so I guess what goes around comes around, eh?
  • Have you done anything recently for the first time, some unique experience or accomplishment? I don’t know that I’ve had any new experiences recently, but I am looking forward to having some soon! I’m planning to take a road trip with my Muppet this spring, to go and see some new sights, to have some girl time with her. I am hoping that one of these days my girlfriends from home and I can coordinate a trip together somewhere fun – that would be awesome! :) Another big experience that I am working on for myself is that I want to take a major epic trip alone – I think it will be amazing. :)
  • What do you think about when you think about death? The idea of death used to not bother me so much – but then I became a mama, and now it makes me sick. The thought of not seeing my baby girl grow up fills me with such awful dread that I have found myself living so much more carefully these days – it’s kind of comical. I hope that I will live to a ripe old age, but the Alzheimer’s in my family (my Dad) has me frightened. While I know that there is absolutely bugger all that I can do about it, it’s still a fear. I just want to live long enough to see my baby girl find her way in this world – and then every day after that will be a gift. :)
  • Is there anything out of the ordinary you want to accomplish before you die? Hmm. I want to write a book and see it published. I want to do something that is so awesome that somebody somewhere makes a speech about me and how my actions made their life better. :) I want to see Bali, and India, and Thailand, and South America before I am too damn old and can’t enjoy them. I want to do this hike to Machu Picchu VERY SOON (it’s a hike along the Lares Trail to Machu Picchu and the Urubamba Valley, the Sacred Valley of the Incas. I know what you’re thinking…”Since when does that prissy princess want to hike? All she does is wear dresses and pretty shoes every damn day of her life!!!!” However, I think – no, make that I KNOW  – it’ll be an awesome life-changing experience. Who’s in to come with me?!??) Truth be told, there are a MILLION things that I have left to do in this lifetime – and I know that I need to hurry up, as time waits for nobody.

 

This was SO much fun…I hope that you will take a bit of time, review these questions and think about your answers as well…if you want to share them with me, I’ll be happy to read them and/or listen to you talk about them. It’ll be fun! :) Stay tuned for the next section – I can’t wait! :)

 

xxx

 

Thinking Out Loud – Repost

I originally posted this last September, but wanted to share it again today. This world desperately needs more love…especially the good kind, like this:

 

This is how people should feel about each other when they are in love:

Click video to hear this song performed live

When your legs don’t work like they used to before
And I can’t sweep you off of your feet
Will your mouth still remember the taste of my love?
Will your eyes still smile from your cheeks?

And, darling, I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And, baby, my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Well, me—I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am

So honey now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are

When my hair’s all but gone and my memory fades
And the crowds don’t remember my name
When my hands don’t play the strings the same way
I know you will still love me the same

‘Cause honey your soul could never grow old, it’s evergreen
And, baby, your smile’s forever in my mind and memory
I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe it’s all part of a plan
Well, I’ll just keep on making the same mistakes
Hoping that you’ll understand

But, baby, now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
Thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are

So, baby, now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Oh, darling, place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are
Oh, baby, we found love right where we are
And we found love right where we are 

 

 

Don’t you just love this song? Me, too…”kiss me under the light of a thousand stars / place your head on my beating heart”? Come on…that’s magic, that is. Love. :-)

I hope you’re finding love right where you are. :-)

 

xxx