Happy Birthday! :)

Happy Birthday to my long term love William Shakespeare!! (it’s also the anniversary of his death, but….we don’t focus on the negative ’round these parts) Our love affair began with me reading “Romeo and Juliet” when I was 8 years old (and yes, naysayers, I totally understood it!)…and continues to this day. We get each other – it’s a pretty deep and real love thing. :)  To honor him, I give you some of his finest…. :)

 

 

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This this THIS :)

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Clearly Mr. Shakespeare knew some of the places I have worked over the years.... ;)

Clearly Mr. Shakespeare knew some of the places I have worked over the years…. ;)

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The wisest words of all :)

 

 

 

Happy Birthday, my love! :)

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Ghost Town

Madonna released the video for her latest single ‘Ghost Town’ this week, and it’s pretty bloody stunning. Here’s a link for you to check it out….it’s beautiful. :-) ** Click on the image to see the video**

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Should you fancy a sing-along, here are the lyrics:

Maybe it was all too much
Too much for a man to take
Everything’s bound to break
Sooner or later, sooner or later

You’re all that I can trust
Facing the darkest days
Everyone ran away
We’re gonna stay here, we’re gonna stay here  

Ah, ah
I know you’re scared tonight
Ah, ah
I’ll never leave your side

When it all falls, when it all falls down
I’ll be your fire when the lights go out
When there’s no one, no one else around
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown

When the world gets cold, I’ll be your cover
Let’s just hold onto each other
When it all falls, when it all falls down
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown

Tell me how we got this far
Every man for himself
Everything’s gone to hell
We gotta stay strong, we’re gonna hold on

This world has turned to dust
All we’ve got left is love
Might as well start with us
Singing a new song, something to build on

Ah, ah
I know you’re scared tonight
Ah, ah
I’ll never leave your side

When it all falls, when it all falls down
I’ll be your fire when the lights go out
When there’s no one, no one else around
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown

When the world gets cold, I’ll be your cover
Let’s just hold onto each other
When it all falls, when it all falls down
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown

I know we’re alright
‘Cause we’ll never be alone in this mad mad, in this mad mad world
Even with no light
We’re gonna shine like gold in this mad mad, in this mad mad world

When it all falls, when it all falls down
I’ll be your fire when the lights go out
When there’s no one, no one else around
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown

When it all falls, when it all falls down
I’ll be your fire when the lights go out
When there’s no one, no one else around
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown

When the world gets cold, I’ll be your cover
Let’s just hold onto each other
When it all falls, when it all falls down
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown
When it all falls, when it all falls down
We’ll be two souls in a ghosttown


This song is just gorgeous…and a beautiful sentiment as well. It’s kind of the musical equivalent of relationship goals, eh? Think about it – when things go bad, I will be your fire when the lights go out; when it’s cold out I will be your cover, let’s just hold on to each other…when there is nobody else around, we will be two souls together. I LOVE it. :-) It’s amazing. :-)

I was asked recently what I thought relationships should be – my answer was not words (for a change), but this image:

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This is really it, isn’t it? Someone who wants your company, thinks you’re the best, and wants to shag only you. Sounds pretty straightforward – and great – to me. :-) I was listening to an acquaintance describe a man that we know in common, and he described him in the most elegant and tragic way – he said that he was a “seeker of lost souls”. I can’t stop thinking about that sentence….because I think that is me. I have always been drawn to strays (animals and humans), those that are down on their luck, those that are unavailable, those that are inappopriate choices….the whole nine yards. It seems like I purposely and deliberately go out of my way to choose the most difficult options in life, and make things hard on myself. I suppose that part of it is that I have always believed greatly in the power of the underdog, because I have felt like an underdog myself. I have always wanted to teach in the prison system, because I believe with every ounce of my being that when we know better we do better, and education has the power to transform lives – and I wanted in on that. Sadly, that opportunity hasn’t come my way yet, but hopefully it will some day. I think I could do some good things. :-) That wide-eyed optimism is the same way that I approach my interactions with other people…and, while this attitude has got me in trouble far more times than I’d care to admit (there are too damn many cruel people out there, my friends), it’s the only attitude that I have. Thinking the best in people, regardless of how lost their soul may be, is all I’ve got. My soul is probably lost as well, you know…and I’m just looking for someone to seek me. :-)

 

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Come On Get Happy

On January 1st, I embarked on a journey to celebrate things that made me happy. I started posting a minimum of 1 picture a day to my Instagram (@leannaerin, if you’re interested in joining in the fun) of something that made me smile and feel happy – and I labelled it with the hashtag #100HappyDays. I had technical difficulties a couple of times that prevented me posting before midnight, but I did fix them right away, and I made it all the way through…my 100th day will be this Friday, which is, ironically, my birthday. :-)

You can find out about this project on their website – and I strongly recommend you give it a look. It’s a great idea – I put a reminder on my phone for every evening at 8:00pm, just to be sure that I wouldn’t forget. Some days, I had so many happy things to post that I blew up my Instagram (sorry about that, following friends – my very large night out in Austin last Friday must have been a beast for you!)…other days, I had to dig pretty bloody deep to find anything to feel happy about. The thing is, though, that I did it, I did find things to feel optimistic and happy about….which is always a great thing. :-)

Here are some highlights for me:

My love :-)

My love :-)

The truth!

The truth!

Hahaha :-)

Hahaha :-)

Sage life advice :-)

Sage life advice :-)

My new short 'do!

My new short ‘do!

I have said these to people....much hilarity ensued ;-)

I have said this to people….much hilarity ensued ;-)

It happens ;-)

It happens ;-)

Amen!

Amen!

If you don't do this, then you're a liar.....EVERYONE does. :-)

If you don’t do this, then you’re a liar…..EVERYONE does. :-)

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According to their website, people have found the following when they have done this project:People successfully completing the challenge claimed to:

– Start noticing what makes them happy every day;
– Be in a better mood every day;
– Start receiving more compliments from other people;
– Realize how lucky they are to have the life they have;
– Become more optimistic;
– Fall in love during the challenge

 

This is what I found: I looked at the world around me differently, constantly keeping my eyes open for things that made my heart super-happy, and took a picture….just to be sure that I remembered the feelings that I had in that moment. I didn’t receive more compliments from people, sadly – however, this is totally fine, as the project was done for me, not for anyone else. I believe that my optimism level improved, which is quite the thing as my optimism is already pretty darn high! As for the last point up there…I think that I fell more in love with myself, with my surroundings, and with this life that I lead – mixed up, chaotic, confusing, and difficult though it may be….it’s MY life, and most days, it’s pretty damn magical. :-)

 

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Done

It has come to my attention recently that people that I thought I was close to, that I had developed friendships with, and that I felt I could trust were, in fact, shitty, shady people who were simply playing me to try to get something from me. I am extremely frustrated by this news, and SO angry at myself….I’m smarter than this. Yet, somehow, in my stupid bloody desperation to have friends and a social life, I believe all of the lies, and open myself up to the possibilities…and then this happens. Again. I’m done.

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Why can’t people just be who they say they are? Is it really that difficult to have integrity? I don’t get it. I have done a lot of reflecting over the weekend, trying to figure out if something I had done could have possibly led these people to believe that this kind of behavior was okay – and I got nothing. Nada. I’m trying to tell myself that their shitty behavior says nothing about me and everything about them, but….it’s hard. If you are finding that this can be an issue for you, here are five signs that you might be in trouble when it comes to integrity:

1. It’s all about you. Selfish people harm their organizations, families and friends. If it’s all about you, you won’t go the distance. Or you will, but you’ll hurt a lot of people in the process and you’ll never know what could have happened if you made it about others.

2. Your self esteem rises and falls with the opinion of others. A secure leader can see the right way and lead people there through tough conditions. An insecure leader will bend with every change in public opinion. Which means you’re not actually leading anyone, not even yourself.

3. You’re hiding things. You shouldn’t be telling everyone everything (that’s not healthy) – but someone needs to know everything. If you’re keeping secrets, you’re heading for a fall.

4. You fail to do what you said you were going to do. This isn’t just about keeping promises; it’s about keeping your word in everything. Better to say nothing and surprise someone by delivering than blurt out an intention you can’t fulfil. Ultimately, people lose confidence in you when you fail to deliver. It’s a trust issue. A fairly easy way to address this is to say less and deliver more. A great follow up system also helps (sometimes a lack of integrity isn’t even a moral issue – just an awareness and organization issue).

5. You make too many compromises. Leadership is not about getting everyone to like you or about finding the easiest path. It’s about discerning the best way forward. It’s about getting people to go where they wouldn’t go if it wasn’t for leadership. If you make too many decisional compromises or even a handful of personal compromises, your effectiveness will be–you guessed it– compromised.

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Those points really make sense to me, how about you? The real question is, though – what do we do about it? Here are some tips to do this better, to be a better person, and less of an arsehole:

Meet your commitments. As an entrepreneur, when you are late with a committed business plan or meeting with an investor, you lose integrity. As a company, if your customer feels you did not meet your product quality commitment, your company loses integrity. Your view or reason doesn’t matter.

Honest to a fault. This term is usually used to mean honest as seen by other people. Some think honesty is only related to what is said, but not telling the whole truth is dishonest, even in court. If you can’t deliver a service because of your company’s mistake, integrity suggests that you include the real reason in your apology.

Strong and consistent moral code. The target here is to meet the receiver’s moral code expectation. If your product or process is marginal or worse, you will lose that customer. If you are trying to find an investor for your new gambling site, you probably will be disappointed.

Treat everyone with respect. No one likes to be dis-respected (from their perspective). Respect is difficult to define in the abstract, but quick to be recognized by the receiver. Be courteous and considerate to all on cultural differences, positions, races, ages, or any other types of distinctions.

Build and maintain trust. Trust is a reliance relationship built on character, strength, and ability. It usually takes several good acts to build, and one bad act to lose. To build company trust, you need to personalize your company. People do business with people. Even internationally known brands are judged daily by the quality of their people.

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While these tips are meant to be taken into consideration in the business world, I don’t see why they wouldn’t apply to our personal relationships as well. We as a society need to treat those around us more carefully, and stop being so reckless with the feelings and emotions of others. We need to be more deliberate in our actions and our words, and we need to be more thoughtful of our fellow man. It seems that more people than ever before are all about themselves these days – gone is the time when we did unto others….we need to bring that kind of thinking back.

 

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What’s the Frequency, Kenneth?

Some folks operate on a completely different frequency from most everyone else around them, they just don’t connect with the masses…and I believe that I am one of those people. I don’t think like most others do, I don’t do the same kinds of things as other people are inclined to do…I’m just basically an odd duck. I have tried to do a better job of fitting in with the world around me, but the results of these efforts have been bloody disastrous, not to mention more than a lot comical. I guess I was just born to stand out – and not fit in.

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I have come to accept this, and most of the time I revel in my weirdness. I am flattered when someone comments on the odd uniqueness of me, and if I was to be called boring, I would probably weep real tears. However, I have come to realize that while I may think this is an awesome way to be, it is not awesome even a smidge to have to try to deal with me. The people around me have had to put up with a lot of shit from me over the years,  and….well, that’s probably not fair. I’m not entirely sure why this has come to my attention recently, but it has. I feel like I should contact everyone I’ve ever known, everyone I’ve ever dated (now there’s a list), everyone I’ve ever worked with, and try to make amends, AA-style. I need to somehow tell them that I’m sorry that I’ve been strange, odd, and difficult to tolerate. I need to apologize and acknowledge that my quest to find my best self has interfered/wreaked havoc on their existence…and I need to say sorry for that. I don’t really know the way to fix all of this, but believe me, I would sure like to. I know some very kind people, it seems….and they all put up with me. Angels, every single one of them – thank goodness I found them at just the right time.

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Speaking of time….so much of life and your success in it comes from timing. I have notoriously BAD timing….no joke. If there was to be a super-great life opportunity about to happen, I would show up when it was over…not because I’m not punctual (because I totally am), but because that is just me. My timing is almost never right. I have struck gold with this issue the odd time – I had my daughter at the perfect point in my life, and she has been the most beautiful gift every day of her nearly 9 years. I happened to be at exactly the right place (working next door to my dream school) at exactly the right time, and I fell into this AMAZING position that I am in now. That was really fantastic timing….but that is the exception, not the rule. I’m the kind of person that meets someone that they can really connect with, and maybe have some sort of a kick-ass relationship and life with…..when the person is either married to someone else or freshly out of a previous relationship and is rebounding more than a bloody basketball. I hate that kind of stuff, and wish that I could do something different to change it, but…I really don’t know that any of us can change circumstance and chance, can we? I have really worked hard on adopting an attitude of gratitude, and embracing the idea that at least something really great came along….even if the timing wasn’t quite there. I’m grateful for the opportunity. :-)

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My outlook on things is kind of weird, too. I was talking with someone recently, and an interesting idea came up – I made the statement that if someone said that they didn’t want me, I would leave and go away, and never bother them again. The person that I was speaking to called me cold, and heartless…and I can certainly understand that perception. However, I see it in a completely different way – I went on to explain that I absolutely will not stay somewhere that I am not wanted, and that I have way too much self-respect to consider begging someone to stay with me, so…I will move on, comfortable in the knowledge that they will be damn sorry to have lost me. My conversation companion continued to stare at me like I had grown a second head (which would be super-cool, btw) – I asked if I had said something wrong, and was told that I hadn’t, but that I possessed a very different way of looking at things. This is not the first time I’ve heard that, and it won’t be the last, I’m sure. I often wonder what it’d be like to see the world the way everyone else does. It’d be easier, of this I have no doubt….

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How do you see the world, my friends? Is your glass half-full or half-empty? Mine is generally half-full…with plenty of room for more vodka! ;-) I talk about this idea of being different with my little one all the time…she fluctuates between wanting to fit in with the masses in her elementary school, marching to the beat of her own drum, and letting her tiny freak flag fly any old time she pleases. I’ve worked in Education long enough to know the vital importance of acceptance from one’s peers during the tumultuous adolescent years, but I so hope that she holds on to some of that uniqueness, that vibrant personality that is coursing through her veins. Those are the things that make her sparkle…and what could be better than that? :-)

 

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All These Things That I’ve Done

I read an aritcle recently on the 15 Things Every Woman Should Do By 40 – hard to believe that this is something that can be so generalized, but…it’s a good piece.  Let’s see how I’m measuring up:

Change careers at least once.

-I’ve got this one right under control. While I’ve worked primarily in Education, I did spend some time working in the Legal field, which I LOOOOOVED. As well, I’ve had tremedous variety in my Education career, so it seems like I have changed careers, which has been tremendously good for me. Variety is the spice of life, and I’m a girl who thrives on change and movement. Woohoo!

 

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Do something “crazy.”

-Well, well….needless to say I have excelled in this area!!! Much of what I have done in life has been tiptoeing a fine line between a great idea and batshit insane. Thankfully, nothing too traumatic has happened as a result of my eccentricities, but…I have never met a crazy idea or a challenge that I don’t love. I am all about grand gestures, and while I’ve never really received one myself, I have done more than one for others – and it feels great. I think that doing crazy things feels AMAZING, it makes you feel alive, and brings the sparkles from the bottom of your toes to the tip of your nose. AWESOME. :-)

Live within our means.

-Ah, not my strongest point, I will admit. I have caviar taste, and a Kraft Dinner budget – for realz. (**DISCLAIMER: When I use the z on realz, you know I’m serious) I spend money frivolously, I do things for other people, I’m always giving stuff to others – because it brings ME joy. I know that I need to smarten up, become more prudent with my spending, and do a much better job of planning for my retirement, but….sometimes girls just wanna have fun. ;-)

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Learn to be comfortable in our own skin.

-I am certain that I will never have this one licked 110%, but holy hell am I ever getting close. I never imagined that I could be as at ease with myself as I am…but I am. I’ve pretty much arrived at a place where I look at myself in the mirror, and instead of being full of self-loathing, I think, “Eh, not bad for an old bag”…And I go about my day…no fuss, no muss. I wore a dress yesterday that was fitted, sexy as all hell – and instead of feeling uncomfortable and squirmy in my sexpot frock all day, I strutted around like the friggin’ boss that I am. Would I look better in the dress if I was 25 lbs lighter? Of course. Do I care? Hell no. I don’t give a shit what somebody else thinks of my body or my appearance – I think I’m awesome, and anybody who doesn’t can just bugger off. These two quotes are everything to me:

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Be glamorous.

-I work really hard at this one, because it matters to me. I care about my appearance, I never go out anywhere looking shlebby, you’d be hard-pressed to ever find me in pants, even…I dress like someone from the Mad Men era. I’ve often got heels on my feet – and, if they aren’t heels, they are very elaborate sandals. My makeup is always done, my hair is always done…I make the effort – not because I’m trying to impress anyone, but for me. I feel better when I look better – and when I feel good, there ain’t no stopping me!;-)

Chase a dream.

-A lot of my dreams in life have come true – I have a beautiful daughter, a job that I (mostly) love, a home that makes me really happy, a book that I have written….I’ve got a lot going for me. I chased all of those dreams and made them happen. The great thing is, though, that for each one that got crossed off the list, I added another 3. The day I stop dreaming will be the day I die, folks – dreams are what keep us alive. Without them, we are directionless, sailboats tossing in the breeze. Dreams not only give you wings, they provide you with an anchor, a guiding light to find your way. Go on and chase them….what have you got to lose? ;-)

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Visit another country.

-I love this one – and I have certainly visited some countries. I love to travel, I’ve been loads of great places, but I am nowhere near done seeing the things that I need to see in this world. My ‘must see’ list of places is very long, and my greatest hope in life is that I live long enough to see them. I want to keep visiting the furthest corners of the earth, I want to see things that I’ve never seen before, I want to taste the local food, and meet some fascinating people. You learn so much about a place by walking in its dirt and breathing its air – I love it. :-)

Step out of our comfort zone.

-My adventures have taken me so far out of my comfort zone, and it has been great. I love the feelings of uncertainty, the not knowing what to do or where to go….I had to have someone teach me how to write a check in the post office in England, for goodness sakes! Clearly, I do alright out of my comfort zone – I love the exhileration that you feel when faced with a completely unfamiliar challenge, yet you somehow manage to muddle your way through and figure it out. It’s magic! :-)

Find a cause.

-I support the Alzheimer’s Society – always have, always will. I wish I could do more for them, for they are carrying out very important work. I have hope. :-)

Make and live by a “soul mate wish list.”

-I have always had a soul mate wish list – and, surprisingly, it has changed very little as I have grown up. However, I have not always lived by it – I have made appallingly bad choices in men over the years, settling right left and center, because I felt that I wasn’t worth having the good stuff that I desperately wanted. I always felt like damaged goods….and nobody wants those. Thankfully, I am working my way past this, and am doing a whole lot better on sticking with what it is that I want, and not accepting the deal breakers that I see.

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Learn not to settle.

-This is part and parcel with the last point I made – I have settled and settled, over and over again, like it was my damn job. Stupid girl….such a waste of time. I finally have discovered the remedy to this situation and actively work to correct it every day, but…this is a tough one. I have some regrets in this department, and I really wish I didn’t. Oh well.

Start over—completely.

-I’ve started over more than once in my lifetime, and I kind of love it. I love a new beginning, I love the new car smell that seems to waft out from my pores when I’m embarking on something new. Love. It. I suppose that I also really dig the opportunity to reinvent myself, to try out slightly different personas, and see if I can maybe become someone a little different. (Just so you know, my attempts at reinvention always fail – I’m a jackass through and through, it is what it is, and I am what I am. I think I’m okay with that.)

Love with complete abandon.

-I am pretty good with this one, too – when I do anything, I do it up BIG. Go big or go home is my favorite motto. No lie. When I care for someone, I care for them 110%, I have no concept of indifference whatsoever. I find myself naturally drawn to like-minded individuals. People who love without restrictions, who dance like no one’s watching (and really don’t care if anyone is watching, truth be told), who do everything they do with their hat in their hands and their hearts on their sleeves….these are my kind of people. I try to live my life that way – and I want to be with people who do as well. I don’t have time for half-assers. (not a word, but it bloody well should be)

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Tell someone exactly how you feel.

-I usually don’t have problems telling people how I feel about things…I’m a fairly open book. The funniest thing is that even when I try to be mysterious and hold back, every thought/feeling is written all over my face – so I’m telling the world how I feel anyway! :-) I’m also a big believer in sharing the truth of what you feel – and I try to live by that idea. Always. I think that the world would be a much simpler, more beautiful place if we could all just be honest about what we think and feel. It’d end a lot of drama, friends!! Let’s try it!! :-)

Write your story…a story. Just write!

-This is what Pretty Thing is all about, my darlings…I’m writing my story down and sharing it with you. I think through a lot of issues while writing about my life on this blog, and many a problem has been worked out through the simple act of updating you on what’s shaking with me. So….thanks! :-) Your participation in this venture, your belief in me, and your interaction has meant so much – thank you. :-)

 

 

 

So…..while I’m not 100% on track with meeting all of these targets, I think that I am doing pretty damn okay. Whew!! ;-)  Yaaaa me!!!!  How’d you do, friends? :-)

 

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Wise Up

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Have you been watching HBO’s “Girls” this season? I have (of course), and I really liked the direction the show has taken this year – and last night’s season finale was an absolute gem. I don’t want to ruin your day with spoilers, but I have to point out a few highlights for me: three cheers for Hannah for not saying YES to a reconciliation with Adam (although I loved them together and wish they could have somehow found their way back to each other)…her ability to say no to him when he says he wants her back was so strong, so powerful – I doubt I could have done that. Adam has always been a magical, powerful force in Hannah’s life, and for her to realize that he was not good for her, and that them being together was destructive….well, that was just awesome. Three cheers for Hannah – our little girl is growing up. :-)

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I have always been a huge fan of the character of Ray – I think that he might just be the one of the realest characters on television today. Over the years, he has made some speeches that have pretty much brought me to my knees with their raw emotion (seriously – whoever is writing the lines that Ray speaks is my friggin’ hero and I want to share a pizza with them and talk over beer), and last night was no exception. He ripped the Jackass Desi a new one, letting him know that he wasn’t good enough to be with Marnie (so.true)…and he said this: “I also know that you absolutely do not deserve her. Even remotely….She is a beautiful, fully-formed woman, dazzling in her complexity, maddening in her mystery. And you underestimate her, every fucking day.” Isn’t that just brilliant?? I was so blown away by that speech that he made, so full of love and admiration, that I paused the TV, hit rewind, and kept watching it over and over again…just to be sure that the full power of those words seeped into my soul. Amazing. Who doesn’t want to be described that way??! I sure as hell do! Love Ray! :-)

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The final thing that I loved most from last night’s episode was the stuff involving Shoshanna – that girl is everything that I imagine I was when I was her age…I just hid my eccentricities a whole lot better than she does. Her wide-eyed optimism is a standout for me on that show, and I loved the scene between she and Colin Quinn, when she is sharing that she’d been offered a job in Tokyo, but wasn’t sure about leaving the new guy she was dating to take the position. Colin Quinn started ranting about reading the most excellent Sheryl Sandberg book ‘Lean In’, and told her, “Grab a seat at the table and lean the fuck in. And if this guy’s worth his salt, he’ll be waiting for you.” Mind. Blown. What I wouldn’t give to have someone have cared enough about me to have given me that advice at various points in my life, when I have made eggregiously stupid decisions based upon the men that I thought were going to be there for me – and they weren’t. And I let opportunities go. Like an idiot. Grr. Oh well….live and learn, eh? :-)

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I know that I am not the target demographic of this show (by about 15 years or so), but I love it with all my heart and think the wisdom of the writing is mind-blowing, regardless of what age you are. Take this line of Hannah’s, for example:

So am I, Hannah...so am I.

So am I, Hannah…so am I.

Isn’t that pretty much what we all are doing? It’s funny….I will be 41 years old in a couple of weeks, and I still feel as if I’m waiting to grow up. There are days when I look around me and see this beautiful life that I’ve crafted for myself, one that is full of responsibilities, events, a maddeningly busy calendar, tasks to be done, places to go…and I wonder how it is that I managed to fall smack into the middle of someone else’s existence, because all of this grown-up stuff can’t possibly belong to me. But it does. I don’t know how it happened. I think I will always feel like Hannah, working hard to try to become who I am. I wonder when I will finally wake up and realize that I’ve been me all along?

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Don’t Stop Believing

I watched the series finale of ‘Glee’ today, and felt all the feels, cried like it was my damn job, and LOVED every second of it. While I had felt that the show had done its share of shark-jumping in the last year or so, last night’s finale was just everything. I laughed, I cried, I was happy with the resolution of things, which rarely happens in a series finale (if you want to start a fight with your friends, solicit opinions on the ending of ‘How I Met Your Mother’ – which I really liked, for the record)…and everything ended happily, which you know I’m all about. :-) Good fuzzy feelings everywhere here today, friends! :-)

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One of my favorite lines from the show was this (Rachel Berry said it during her Tony Award acceptance speech – she was talking about the impact her teacher, Mr. Schuester, has had on her life): Being part of something special does not make you special – something is special because you are a part of it. Don’t you just friggin’ LOVE that???! I know – me, too. :-) LOVE. :-) This is something I have always really believed – the importance of acknowledging the special qualities that other people have. We all get busy, we don’t praise each other, we don’t stop to reflect on the AMAZING things that everyone around us does every single day. Instead, we rush through life, hurrying to do all of the things that are on our never-ending To Do lists…when really we should be taking time to enjoy all of the beautiful stuff that surrounds us. I’ve always been the worst at this – I work too much, I’m always trying to take on too much…when in reality, I need to just slow ‘er down a bit, and breathe. It’s good to smell the roses. Or the candy. Or the bottom of the cereal bag after you’ve emptied the Frosted Flakes into a bowl. ;-)

One of the highlights of the ‘Glee’ finale for me was Lea Michele’s final ballad – a song called “This Time”, written by the loooovely Darren Criss (fun fact – I think he is about the cutest, most talented, and bestest guy on TV) – this article has an audio preview for you to check out (which you should – you’ll love it!), and here are the words, should you care to sing along:

These walls and all these picture frames
Every name they show
These halls I’ve walked a thousand times
Heartbreaks and valentines, friends of mine all know

I look at everything I was
And everything I ever loved
And I can see how much I’ve grown

And though the mirror doesn’t see it
It’s clear to me, I feel it
I can make it on my own

I’m not afraid of moving on or letting go
It’s just so hard to say goodbye to what I know, I know

This time no one’s gonna say goodbye
I’ll keep you in this heart of mine
This time I know it’s never over

No matter who or what I am
I’ll carry where we all began
This time that we had, I will hold forever

This old familiar place is
Where every face is another part of me
I played a different game then
They called me a different name then
I think of all the things I did and how
I wish I knew what I know now

I see how far I’ve come and what I got right
When I was looking for that spotlight
I was looking for myself

Got over what I was afraid of
I showed ‘em all that I was made of
More than trophies on a shelf

For all the battles that we lost or might have won
I never stopped believing in the words we sung, we sung

This time no one’s gonna say goodbye
I’ll keep you in this heart of mine
This time I know it’s never over

No matter who or what I am
I’ll carry where we all began
This time that we had, I will hold forever

I’m looking out from the crossroads
I don’t know how far away I will roll
I take a breath, I close my eyes
Your voice will carry me home

I’ll keep you in this heart of mine
This time I know it’s never over

No matter who or what I am
I’ll carry where we all began

This time that we had, I will hold
This time that we had, I will hold
This time that we had, I will hold
Forever

Forever

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Isn’t that song awesome?? So. Profound. I love it, it seems to be a perfect description of how we all feel when we are on the cusp of change, leaving behind the familiar, and taking a giant leap into the great unknown – something I’ve done MANY times myself, but it never gets any easier, or any less exhilerating. I am a person who generally thrives on change and loves massive life shifts like nobody’s business – it’s learning to revel in the day-to-day that’s somewhat challenging for me, but I’m working on it. :-)

 

Did you watch ‘Glee’? What’d you think? I hope you loved it as much as I did – well done, Ryan Murphy et al. Well done. :-)

 

xxx