What do you want out of life? This question is much harder than it seems on the surface. I thought about it and made a list the other day – here’s a few of the things that I came up with:
-A salary increase of at least $25,000 within the next 3 years
-Shorter working hours – down to 60 hours/week instead of the current level
-More time with my little one!!
-A really pretty wardrobe (including appropriate accessories)
-Some work done on my house – I want my home to be my castle!
-A LOT of work on my yard! (you’ve no idea how badly it needs it!)
-More opportunities (and funding!) to travel
-A writing career – even if it’s only part time, I want this so badly
-A promotion at work
-A healthy, happy love relationship
-A close relationship with my friends
-Love and Attention
From what I understand, the first step in getting the things that you want is to clarify exactly what it is that you want. While I know that the list above is by no means exhaustive, it is certainly a start. Here’s an article that I found that explains how to program your mind to get what you want….who doesn’t want that??!
Decide What You Want
In order to get what you want, you must first decide what you want. Most people really foul up at this crucial first step because they simply can’t see how it’s possible to get what they want — so they don’t even let themselves want it. Don’t sabotage yourself that way! What scientists now know about how the brain works is that you must first decide WHAT you want, before your brain can figure out HOW to get it. Once you lock-in your desires, your mind and the universe can step in.
Be Willing to Dream Big Dreams
As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, they compel others to want to play big, too.
Set Goals That Will Stretch You
Another value in giving yourself permission to go after the big dreams is that big dreams require you to grow in order to achieve them. In fact, in the long run, that is the greatest benefit you will receive from pursuing your dreams — not so much the outer trappings of fulfilling the dream (an expensive car, impressive house, loads of money and philanthropic opportunities), but who you become in the process. As I’ve seen many times over, the outer symbols of success, can all be easily lost. Houses burn down, companies go bankrupt, relationships end in divorce, cars get old, bodies age and fame wanes, but who you are, what you have learned and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success. Motivational philosopher, Jim Rohn advises that “You should set a goal big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming.”
Service to Others
Something else you’ll discover is that when your dreams include service to others — accomplishing something that contributes to others — it also accelerates the accomplishment of that goal. People want to be part of something that contributes and makes a difference.
Turn Your Dreams into Goals and Objectives
Once you are clear about what you want, you must turn each item into a measurable objective. By measurable, I mean measurable in space and time — how much and by when. For instance, if you were to tell me that you wanted more money, I might pull out a dollar and give it to you, but you would probably protest, saying “No, I meant a lot more money — like $20,000!” Well, how am I supposed to know unless you tell me? Similarly, your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain — God, the Universe — can’t figure out what you want unless you tell them specifically what it is. What do you want — exactly — and when do you want it by?
Write Your Goals Down
Write your goals down in detail, and read your list of goals every day. This will keep your subconscious mind focused on what you want. For an even more powerful approach, close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, “What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?” Write down your answers and take those actions.
To help your reticular activating system begin finding YOUR wants in unexpected places, take time now to decide what you want and start writing!
Remember, don’t hold back!
Now – when I look back on the few things that I jotted down up top, I can see that I have a lot of finetuning to do! I need to be more specific, I need to make my list of things more manageable, and quantify how I want these things to be. I need to sit down – and here’s the hard part – and create a list of goals that I want to have happen. I need to put these goals and dreams all over the place, and surround myself with them – they need to be more visible than just a spot in my work notebook. I need to make these things a priority for me, and I need to think on them every single day, making them part of the fabric of me. I can do this….I think I can, I think I can.